A couple of weeks ago, my husband and I sat at the dinner table with my sister and her husband who were visiting for Cee's birthday party. As we made future plans, I suddenly realized with horror that Joe's upcoming work travels would take him away for two weeks, right up until the day before Dee's baptism.
"Oh my gosh! I'm going to have so much to do, especially with you gone!", I lamented.
"What's the big deal? It's not like there's hardly anything to do. We just show up at the church, dunk the kid, and eat," was Joe's (serious) response.
"Big deal"?! "Not anything to do"?!?! ARE YOU JOKING?!
I was gratified to look across the table and see the same slack-jawed, gaped-mouth face of dismay and disbelief that was planted on my own face, reflected in my sister's face.
But she's a woman. She gets it.
My husband? He's a man. He obviously does NOT "get it".
Let's see...
There's the spiritual preparations, like having some important heart-to-hearts with Dee to make sure he understands what he's agreeing to in making the choice to be baptized. Etc.
There's the actual baptism to plan. Who's going to say the prayer? Lead the music? Give the talks? Etc, etc.
There's the luncheon after the baptism to plan. How many are we feeding? What are we eating? Now how does that fit in the budget? When can I go shopping with minimal children? Do I need to make alternatives for my food issue kids? How am I going to time everything so that all the food is done at once, but I'm not standing in the kitchen all day? Etc, etc, etc.
And the house. It needs to be cleaned. The basics like vacuuming and bathrooms. But then there are fingerprints all over walls and food smears on chairs. "Booby trapped" cupboards might be opened by unsuspecting victims. I still haven't put back all my decor since taking down Christmas stuff. The laundry cannot be allowed to linger. And what is that rotten smell in the kitchen? Etc, etc, etc, etc, etc.
Are we having any overnight guests? Did we remember to invite Grandma? What's the weather going to be like for out of state travelers? Is Dee's suit clean? Does he actually have any (still) white underwear? etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, ETC!
And this is all on top of the regular day to day stuff! AND ALL TO BE COMPLETED IN MARRIED SINGLEHOOD SINCE THE REALLY HELPFUL MAN OF THE HOUSE WILL BE OUT OF TOWN FOR THE TWO WEEKS PRIOR!!
A mom's head could explode.
But a dad's...?
Well, he's just there to "dunk the kid".
He would be perfectly happy if we ate chicken nuggets while sitting on the (maybe vacuumed?) floor.
Sure, he may have the priesthood power, but I've got the power of perception and paranoia.
He will help Dee "wash away his sins". And I'll wash everything else.
I'm not complaining. (Well, maybe a little...) I'm definitely not getting all feminist-frenzied. (Oh good gravy! PLEASE let's not go there.) Nor am I belittling my efforts or burdens as a woman. And I'm not trying to disparage all the hard work my husband does to support and nurture our little family.
This is how it works--and by "works" I mean WORKS...mutually, collaboratively, harmoniously. We all play our parts and "with our powers combined" it will be a great day!
2 comments:
As wonderful as they are to have around & as much as we love them, they definitely just don't "Get It" sometimes... most of the time :)
I'm sure at this point you've already got something wonderful scrumptious planned, but for Maggie's luncheon I did Taco Soup. It was so super easy and low maintenance! I made it all the day before, borrowed a few crock pots and put the soup in the morning of the baptism at the church and the soup warmed while she was getting "dunked." We did her luncheon/birthday party there at the church immediately following the baptism. (Here they don't have Stake Baptisms) Anyhow, it worked so great because my family brought all the chips toppings etc and it was ready to go with little work right when we were ready. I hardly spent any time in the kitchen at all! Plus, it's so easy to make allergy free and have it still taste good to everybody else! Anyhow, I'm sure whatever you do it will be marvelous! Enjoy this special day for your family!:)
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